Reflection from the Intimacy Training 2025
Now with the proof in my hand, embodied in the last batch of 32 graduates of The Intimacy Training 2025, I stand here with an open mouth in awe of what transpired between us.
My heart is open, my mind is at peace, and a deep “farmers” joy bubbling in every cell of my body.
The graduates are now merging back into their habitats all over Europe with an imprint of the relational magic that is possible when we become each other's “gardeners.”
Yet the magic that allows us to blossom is nothing we invented.
It is who we are and what emerges given a rich and juicy environment in which to root and expand.
The process of decomposing our lifeless remnants of our protective shells into fertile soil is not pink or fluffy. Not for the one committed to conform.
It is a raw, real, and smelly endeavour.
“Human relating is full of love, and pain. “Alone with too much,” we suffer in vain. Yet if we bring the pain we repeatedly stumble upon into connection with an embodied community, this same pain opens hearts and minds into infinite possibilities.”
Human relating is full of love, and pain. “Alone with too much,” we suffer in vain. Yet if we bring the pain we repeatedly stumble upon into connection with an embodied community, this same pain opens hearts and minds into infinite possibilities.
And this is what I had the honor to experience, repeatedly through each courage and vulnerable authentic self reveal.
The pain that seemed so solid and encapsulated in personal beliefs and stories are magically alchemized into a mind blowing high on life, a space to freely move and align with what we truly “f-ing” want.
What seems to be the “secret” of communal path towards fulfilling relationships are two things: an embodiment that allows us to embrace what catches up when we slow down, and as one of my teachers, David Cates, once said, into the “speed of love.”
Finally, we can be “together with enough” and bring all the alienated parts of us into a transpersonal connectivity.
“What seems to be the “secret” of communal path towards fulfilling relationships are two tings: an embodiment that allows us to embrace what catches up when we slow down, and as one of my teachers, David Cates, once said, into the “speed of love.”
Finally, we can be “together with enough” and bring all the alienated parts of us into a transpersonal connectivity. ”
Now I can be myself, invite you to see, hear and feel me, without looking away, tensing my stomach, and running scripts based upon the then and there.
Here we feel what's alive while not being attached to the meaning we make up about it. We can now follow an embodied flow that surfaces from the river of life. Sensitively grounded in the subtle flow of life, we know when we are “off,” and regardless of the ups and downs, ins and outs of the waves of life, there is a way back home, into connection and trust that extends beyond preference and the minds attempt to manage and control of the flow.
To wrap up, in looking at “the world” right now, I sense that many of us are overwhelmed over where it’s heading and longing to come together from a sense of embodied trust. To live from less fear and reactivity, from more love and compassion.
So I'm standing here in awe of having together lift the hood of our relational engine that drives us unconsciously and witnessed and been part of a divine re-engineering of the cables to create a collective engine that runs more on love than on fear.
For this one life, with you, I'm eternally grateful.
Love you
Buster